Feature Friday - The Royal Wedding

Classic, Elegant, Classy & Beautiful.

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http://www.empoweredtraditionalist.com/2011/04/29/old-love-new-love/

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Inspirational Friendship

I have this amazing friend, (I have a few, but this one gets special mention today), who lives on another continent across an ocean and she has recently started blogging.

She enriches my life.
She is a prime example of a godly woman.
I see her in the bible verse “Let your beauty not be external - the braiding of hair and wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes - but the inner person of the heart, the lasting beauty of a gentle and tranquil spirit, which is precious in the God’s sight.” 1 Peter 3:3-4 
Beautiful on the outside and the inside.
I wish I could spend time with her, so that she would rub off on me.
At least now she is a little bit more accessible - hear my friends enriching thoughts.  She will touch your heart.

http://amommythought.blogspot.com/

A Rose By Any Other Name

A rose by any other name would smell as sweet.

Friendship at unexpected times

My friend Caron left for the USA on Tuesday last week.  Me, being a flake, got her farewell dates mixed up - I need to buy a diary, and I missed her party.

Driving home on Tuesday afternoon, I got a phone call and it was Caron, thanking me - the lame, forget your farewell friend, telling me how precious I am to her, giving me affirmation when I should be the one calling her and saying - have a safe trip, you are precious, enjoy your adventure, have fun, I know you will continue to bless and enrich the lives of the 'Yanks' (said affectionately) you meet, you are a blessing and God has got you and he has amazing things lined up for you.

Read her tasteful, catchy, hip and chic blog http://macdotcoza.blogspot.com - its a treat.

Only decent picture I have available without access to facebook.

Thank you God, for this wonderful lady!

Out of Sight, Out of Mind

One of the explanations as to my current status of disposability, from Rebekah, is "out of sight, out of mind."

 I would hope for more of an "absence makes the heart grow fonder" effect, alas we can't get what we want.

The out of sight, out of mind effect seems to extend beyond the reaches of my Saturday blog.  Hence the prompting to dig up an old poem book I made in high school...

I was unable to track the origin of 'Out of Sight, Out of Mind' but I came across a poem (when I was about 15) written by Sir Walter Raleigh 1552-1618

Out of Sight, Out of Mind.

The oftener seen, the most I lust.

The more I lust, the more I smart.

The more I smart, the more I trust.

The more I trust, the heavier heart.

The heavy heart breeds mine unrest.

They absence, therefore, I like best.

The rarer seen, the less in mind.

The less in mind, the lesser pain.

The lesser pain, less grief I find.

The lesser grief, the greater gain.

The greater gain, the merrier I.

Therefore I wish thy sight to fly.

The further off, the more I joy.

The more I joy the happier life.

The happier life, less hurts annoy.

The lesser hurts, pleasure most rife.

Such pleasure rife shall I obtain.

When distance doth depart us twain.

I do pitty the girl he wrote the poem for.  Sir Walter an interesting man the hyperlink will take you to his wikipedia page, its worth a read.

Social Etiquette Doesn't Pay

The Little Book of Etiquette

I've always wanted to be a lady that conducts myself appropriately in various situations.  When I was about 12 I took a book out of the library on etiquette and read it (while taking notes - first born type A personality trait).

When presented with multiple knives and forks I know (thanks to Titanic) to "start from the outside and work your way in."

I also know how to fold that napkin fan.

Being South African I use both my knife and fork, simultaneously when I eat.  A fork is NOT a knife and should not be used to cut food, it is used to prod food and pick it up.

I like men to be chivalrous and really appreciate it when a man offers me his seat, lets me walk through a door first and opens a car door for me.  I feel like I'm being treated like a lady and these chivalrous gestures do make me respect the man displaying them.

   

On a side note tangent - I totally agree with the Cyanide and Happiness cartoon below.

Back from my tangent.

In line with etiquette - let me set the scene.

Bonni was coming home for a vacation, a friend of hers, Mildread, organised a welcome home part at Rebekah's house.  I'm friends with Bonni and good friends with Rebekah.  Mildread is an acquittance, we see each other socially where we have mutual friends - I've always thought of her as a solid, stand up, grounded girl who has been a great friend to our mutual friends.

Lee was invited to this welcome home part and she proceeded to invite me.  As she hadn't given me any other details, the eve of the party approached I decided to call Rebekah and ask her what I needed to bring.  Rebekah sounded confused and not excited about my query and the news that I had been invited (which was explained later-she still likes me, I haven't offended her - so YAY me for not being a completely crappy person).  

This news prompted a call from Lee about 10 minutes later telling me that "Your no longer invited" hmmm* saucer of milk with that comment?

Mildread had prompted Lee to uninvite me.

Now I'm completely okay with not being invited to something, its that persons prerogative, if you don't want me there thats completely okay.  But to be uninvited somewhere, who does that?  Honestly its bizarre, hurtful, humiliating and bitchy! 

How would Mildread feel if I asked Lee to uninvite her to a function I had organised for Rebekah.

Tangent:

Coming from the Christian circle that this scene was based in, the Christian cliche of WWJD (what would Jesus do), Christian love?  Hmmm* no wonder why the world see's Christians as hypocrites and the way social media displays them is self-righteous, holier than tough.

If I hadn't had the etiquette prompting of NOT arriving empty handed and checking with my host and friend.  I would not have been uninvited, spent my Friday and Saturday morbidly upset over my disposablity-its a crumby place to be.

I will be calling Mildread (having spoken to Rebekah this morning) and confronting her of her poor handling of the situation, nicely - bring it on confrontation, I wonder if there is an etiquette book on calling someone out on high school catiness. 

Reeeooow!

*This might be slightly misrepresented for your concise reading preferences - it was an exclusive gathering of closer personal friends, however Bella who is of the same apparent friendship ranking as me and who was in the same exact same position as me was not uninvited.  I was the one who was used to make an example of, as Lee has a habit of inviting people to things-her motto the more the merrier*

*Names have been changed*