I've always wanted to be a lady that conducts myself appropriately in various situations. When I was about 12 I took a book out of the library on etiquette and read it (while taking notes - first born type A personality trait).
When presented with multiple knives and forks I know (thanks to Titanic) to "start from the outside and work your way in."
I also know how to fold that napkin fan.
Being South African I use both my knife and fork, simultaneously when I eat. A fork is NOT a knife and should not be used to cut food, it is used to prod food and pick it up.
I like men to be chivalrous and really appreciate it when a man offers me his seat, lets me walk through a door first and opens a car door for me. I feel like I'm being treated like a lady and these chivalrous gestures do make me respect the man displaying them.
On a side note tangent - I totally agree with the Cyanide and Happiness cartoon below.
Back from my tangent.
In line with etiquette - let me set the scene.
Bonni was coming home for a vacation, a friend of hers, Mildread, organised a welcome home part at Rebekah's house. I'm friends with Bonni and good friends with Rebekah. Mildread is an acquittance, we see each other socially where we have mutual friends - I've always thought of her as a solid, stand up, grounded girl who has been a great friend to our mutual friends.
Lee was invited to this welcome home part and she proceeded to invite me. As she hadn't given me any other details, the eve of the party approached I decided to call Rebekah and ask her what I needed to bring. Rebekah sounded confused and not excited about my query and the news that I had been invited (which was explained later-she still likes me, I haven't offended her - so YAY me for not being a completely crappy person).
This news prompted a call from Lee about 10 minutes later telling me that "Your no longer invited" hmmm* saucer of milk with that comment?
Mildread had prompted Lee to uninvite me.
Now I'm completely okay with not being invited to something, its that persons prerogative, if you don't want me there thats completely okay. But to be uninvited somewhere, who does that? Honestly its bizarre, hurtful, humiliating and bitchy!
How would Mildread feel if I asked Lee to uninvite her to a function I had organised for Rebekah.
Tangent:
Coming from the Christian circle that this scene was based in, the Christian cliche of WWJD (what would Jesus do), Christian love? Hmmm* no wonder why the world see's Christians as hypocrites and the way social media displays them is self-righteous, holier than tough.
If I hadn't had the etiquette prompting of NOT arriving empty handed and checking with my host and friend. I would not have been uninvited, spent my Friday and Saturday morbidly upset over my disposablity-its a crumby place to be.
I will be calling Mildread (having spoken to Rebekah this morning) and confronting her of her poor handling of the situation, nicely - bring it on confrontation, I wonder if there is an etiquette book on calling someone out on high school catiness.
Reeeooow!
*This might be slightly misrepresented for your concise reading preferences - it was an exclusive gathering of closer personal friends, however Bella who is of the same apparent friendship ranking as me and who was in the same exact same position as me was not uninvited. I was the one who was used to make an example of, as Lee has a habit of inviting people to things-her motto the more the merrier*
*Names have been changed*
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